Eight takeaways from 2017

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By Vageesha Mishra

Hey there my WP family, it has been long I know which is why this post is essential. Alright so 2017, the most difficult year of my life as my father passed away and over months in the grieving process with all my guards down I skilfully managed to get my heart stuck in a terrible place, only to get it more crushed.

I took my time, time heals all wounds they say. I’m not completely recovered and I don’t expect to be so soon but I did get some answers over time. You know what answers do? They give you hope. So, how could this girl possibly find hope amidst all this? Read on.
You can’t escapethere have been too many days this year when I have felt like running away, I don’t know where, just away from pain, reality, uncertainty, dismay, a strong feeling that there’s no point to life. But that’s it, you cannot. You have to stay in this world, pay for your bad deeds, do good Karma and then hope for the best. As time flew, I got a clearer perspective, if there is no escape and doing things without putting your heart into it is only adding to our woes, I might as well do my duties with more dedication so they don’t end up causing more troubles. Moreover, this life, well if it’s meant for living, why don’t we try to make most of it because when life feels beautiful, nothing can come close to that feeling. We just need to figure out a way to reach there.
You’re an individual firstIt’s not enough to be independent financially, as a person, one needs to be as self-sufficient as possible so that in most situations they don’t depend on others for their happiness. And when days turn dark, they can manage to come through which would seem impossible with a weak, overly dependent self. I mean others can do only so much. After a point, it’s on you to make or break your life. It’s not a luxury, it’s imperative to be strong enough physically, emotionally, spiritually if you want to pull yourself up and stay happy. Also, if you want to be there for your kith and kin in addition to keeping them prosperous and happy, you need to be well yourself first.
Find happiness withinHave you ever noticed how soothing a toddler’s giggle feels? It’s carefree and happy because unlike the grown-ups, kids are simple. There is a natural air of happiness in our heart. This feeling helps us find silver lining and joy in everything, the way cold breeze tickles your skin, smell of coffee, a kite up in the sky, your creative creations and so on. This ability suffers heavily as we grow up. Happy people manage to keep this air blowing. That way they find abundant reasons to be cheerful and even when they meet heartbreaks, it’s easier for them to get back on their feet as they know how to stay happy.
Deal with your issues at the earliestAlright so are you the kind of person who keeps giving someone enough chances while they keep wronging you, so you bottle up all the disappointment and burst out one day? Yeah? Well then, let’s sit together in an intervention having a heart to heart on our embarrassing meltdowns while watching Adam Sandler’s Anger Management. None of this solves anything and sooner or later people will get on your case. This is just one issue, we all deal with a billion, if you don’t address them at the earliest then in a time like this, they’ll take you down with them because normally we have a control over mind which actually goes haywire during tragedies and hard times. It all just makes it one big overwhelming mess.
Family is everything as well as it’s important to cultivate a fulfilling circleFamily should be our first priority because they are indeed the reason we want to stay alive. Also, it’s alright to be an introvert but books and music cannot completely fill that void. We’re human beings after all, we thrive on affection, belongingness and genuine love. Having a small network of friends, relatives other than family won’t harm you. In fact, when you fall, you need some people to catch you. Believe me, life does break even the strongest and at times it becomes impossible to go ahead alone. Over years, we do get to understand who actually cares about us. Make a circle out them. Don’t just socialise, be there for them because they are precious to you. So, when they need you, how can you not help them out?
Help othersWhenever the opportunity arises, try to be of help to someone in whatever capacity you can afford. It could be a valuable advice, some of your time, financial aid, knowledge sharing and the like. Believe me sometimes that small gesture can save a life.
Cut off toxicYou know life’s not a cakewalk in general and sometimes it’s awfully difficult. In between you’re trying to make a small fulfilling world around yourself without bothering anyone helping whoever you can side by side. So, it’s absolutely not selfish to cut off anything that threatens this arrangement. Self-centric people, manipulators, those who can’t be happy for you, negative people, negative/hopeless/depressing thoughts, hate, pain, grudges, depressing movies/books/talks and the like, cut it all off.
Trust your instinctWhen your instinct says don’t invest here, listen, don’t take this route, listen, this person will break your heart, listen, it’s wrong, don’t do it, listen. Because most times, that’s your guardian angel’s way of saying, “girl you’re strolling towards a speeding invisible train, get off the tracks now!”

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By twinklingwords

I had been exercising most of these all my life but not completely and these past months made me realise their worth.

Sorry for the long post but it had to be. How is everyone doing? Do me a favour, kindly do not ask about my tragedies, talking about them disturbs the mindset with which I’m trying to movies ahead. I tried not to write about them but realised it was bound to get reflected in my writings. Anyway, if you have any takeaways from 2017 or if you like to add something here, please feel free to do so. Happy Writing folks!!


59 thoughts on “Eight takeaways from 2017

  1. Thanks to you for that post. This post was what I exactly wanted! I think most people going through hard times should read this. And as this year goes let all our pains and sorrows go away with it. Really nice to see you back TW. Things happen for a reason in life. Everything’s gonna be alright in time. Just don’t lose hope and courage. And I’m pretty sure next year’s gonna be better for you. So take care! Cheers. xoxo

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    1. Hey dear Rak, I can’t tell you how happy your comment has made me❤ thank you for your kind wishes and words of compassion. Yes I know, I’ll be more than happy if this post could help someone in need, so thank you so much for appreciating it and patiently reading through a content heavy post.
      It’s good to be back and I’ve planned on writing regularly now so thank you for the welcome. Take care girl, you guys make this place home like❤❤😘I wish us a year full of happiness too😘 xoxo

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      1. Welcome back to your home (Virtual one though) Can’t wait to see more of your posts! Trust me this post is really helpful. And I hope we have a great year full of happiness. xoxo❤

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  2. This was really inspiring TW especially for people like me who are a bit lost in life. I have already adopted a few of your 8 mantras in my life, but still a long way to go to finally be comfortable with my situations, & with myself.
    You have really been brave in spite of facing such difficult times. More power to you my friend.

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    1. Mona 😊 how are you doing? Thank you for reading such a long post and then leaving a comment that actually warmed my heart. I’m glad it helped, yeah I had been exercising most of these too but not completely and realised their depth over past months. May we all find our way. Have a great day friend❤

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  3. Self reflection is necessary at times, however to have a clear perspective out of every contemplation remains elusive because of our denial of shedding preconceived notions and unwillingness to accept the reality.
    Your write up is crystal clear and honest which shows, in my view, your clarity of thought.
    Best wishes for new year.

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    1. Hey Abhay, thanks a ton for sparing your time and reading this post. I so greatly appreciate your comment. Thank you for your kind words, I agree preconceived notions are hardest to shed and require an honest approach.
      Wish you a very Happy New Year😊😊

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  4. Good morning, TW. I know I am in here a little late but so glad to see a simple yet very powerful writeup. I very well know your reflections are a result of your experiences. I absolutely agree that family comes first and so do a wonderful circle of friends. We are social beings and we need the support of friends and family to keep us going. As for lending a helping hand, the joy that we derive from lending a helping hand is inexplicable and as my Little Princess says, sharing is caring! Loved the wisdom, my dear. Wishing you more power this New Year.

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    1. Hey my dear friend, so good to see you here again, reminded me of old days❤ thank you for reading and greatly appreciating the wisdom, I thought it might help some who are struggling as well as otherwise. I love you Little Princess’ ideology, surely she’s going to make her family proud just like her mommy.
      Totally agreed the joy is inexplicable and socialising with your true circle is the best❤
      I wish you and your family a very Happy New Year my dear friend ❤😄xoxo

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      1. It was my pleasure to see you back and that too with such beautiful words of wisdom to reflect upon. We all have our demons, my dear, but in different degrees. Wishing you more positivity this year.
        I am so glad to have found you here and even glad to catch you every Sunday . Thank you and once again, wishing you the same.

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      2. Hey!😁😃 Thank you once again for so much motivation, I’m so glad I joined this platform, got to come across so many like minded folks and amazing human beings like you♥️ yes I agree with every word you said. Also little princess might not make much sense of it now but will definitely do someday and that’ll make her very happy♥️ thank you once. Happy New Year to you once again, yes I feel so happy to catch you here on Sundays, love and hugs♥️♥️

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  5. Hey Ms Twinkling, happy new year. I know words sound feeble right now, there is probably nothing I could say that would miraculously give you the rainbow you need. Be strong for your family in 2018 (and beyond), knowing that you have the full support and backing of your friends (if you don’t, then they are not your friends and you would do well to unburden yourself). In spite of all of this, please focus on restoring faith in yourself too. The sense of helplessness can be crippling, we can only hope it’s transient. Take care! 🙂

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    1. Hey Jolene, it’s been a while. Happy New Year my friend 😊 how have you been?
      I appreciate your kind words, thank you for them. I understand what you mean, it’s very difficult to keep faith let alone in myself but like I mentioned there is no other way!
      It’s nice to see your comment, certainly miss WP, feels good to be to here☺️

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  6. A very inspiring post as we all are having our strength & weakness but its just how well we realised it and simultaneously some friends & family is the other name of strength.
    I wish you all strength with loads of happiness ahead in this new year & years to come.
    Keep writing & smiling!😇📝

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  7. You’ve covered every point there is or one learns when one goes through a tragedy. It took me time to really practise all these but once I did that, life became so much easier. In addition to all that you’ve mentioned, a point that did help me get through loss was ” Instead of regretting what you dont have, use the time to value those who are still around with you”. May God give you the strength to get through it and come out stronger. Xxx

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    1. Hello Smitha, thank you so much for giving my posts a read and leaving such valuable comments. Much appreciated 😊
      Thank you for your kindness here and I think yes, I sometimes give myself that dose of reality as well to focus on what’s left with us, that helps to stay on track. Thank you once again. Wish you a Happy and prosperous New Year, Smitha. Have a nice day☺️

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  8. Very valid points. Seems like they are proven with lessons learned the hard way, and hence are more valuable and stays with the individual for the rest of her/his life. Sorry to know about your personal loss. I know how it feels when you lose a parent. Wish you a peaceful and healthy 2018, rich with opportunities, happiness and good times.

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    1. They are indeed and yes as a person I have changed so I think yes these are going to stay with me. Sorry to hear that. I hope you’ve found peace.
      Thank you for your kind and wonderful wishes. I wish you too a very happy, healthy, adventurous (since you’re into that it seems)and successful New Year☺️

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      1. I can relate with what you feel. My prayers for you, TW.
        During the time that I’m going through that similar circumstance, my blog really helped keep my sanity intact 🙂 Of course with the help and encouragements of my friends, both real and here in the virtual world.
        Stay strong. This is one of the very few times in your life that you need to hold on tighter to the notions and beliefs that you have and that you’ve expressed in here.

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      2. Andrei, thank you. For almost a year now, I have heard people compassionately telling me the things people normally say in such situations but not much actually help you. Your words somehow got to me. Thank you indeed friend, I’m glad you read this post and left this comment. Take care.

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  9. Very well written ! So many truths in this, getting rid of toxic and spending time on what makes you truly happy are mandatory things to make it through the day. Sorry to hear about your father, my condolences. I hope 2018 is a better year ! Be well..

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  10. Superb post. I fully agree with you that being Financially independent is not enough.One should be self-sufficient also.-which means you don’t depend on anybody for anything. Its really a great feeling to be self sufficient.

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